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Co-sleeping

So, how is everyone doing?

I'm curious... I never EVER imagined I would co-sleep but have found us doing it every night. She sleeps where ever during the day but at night she either sleeps between the hubby and I or on his chest.
I never did any research on it since I hadn't planned on doing it. I love it yet I'm so anxious and nervous at the same time.

Anyone feel similar? What are your sleeping arrangements? How did you get over the fear? Another reason we are doing it is that she HATES being swaddled! So I don't want her being cold. We don't run a heater but the house doesn't get TOO cool. I bought her some sleeper pajamas but they are still too big.

Sorry, I'm just sort of rambling. I'm experiencing the first-time mom paranoia and I just don't know how to cope! lol

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lady_mishegas
Nov. 5th, 2011 10:20 pm (UTC)
I should co-sleep because maybe then I'd get some, but I'm afraid of our ASD 5 year old jumping on the baby in the middle of the night. Also we have a memory foam pad on the bed and we'd have to take that off, and, well, co-sleeping scares me. I'm a scardey cat. I have this sweet, sweet little boy who will only sleep on a person. The first few days home he slept a few hours in his basinette, but the last two nights, he has refused to sleep there at all. I grabbed what sleep I could in a chair. I am quite unhappy about it.
ladyelentari
Nov. 5th, 2011 10:49 pm (UTC)
For the most part, we try to keep James in his cradle which is in our room. But sometimes he just isn't having it, and for the sake of our sanity I'll bring him to bed to sleep. We make sure he's in a clear area and with enough space on either side of him that he's not in danger of being squished, and if I do bring him to bed in the middle of the night, I make sure I wake my husband to tell him that the baby is nearby. I've also fallen asleep with him on my shoulder while burping him after a nighttime nursing session, lol.
I was really against co-bedding before he was born, and I'm really trying to keep him in his cradle as much as possible, but sometimes, well, the need for sleep takes precedence. It does make me nervous though.
ilikerivers
Nov. 6th, 2011 12:25 am (UTC)
We bed-share and I love it. We keep the blankets away from her and I wake to check on her all the time. I would get zero sleep with her elsewhere as she sleeps for 15min-2hrs, nurses, needs a change and that repeats all day and night.
hoodsey
Nov. 6th, 2011 12:32 am (UTC)
Do you swaddle her or how does she stay warm?
ilikerivers
Nov. 6th, 2011 01:01 am (UTC)
I wrap her with her arms out most of the time. Or just tuck a light muslin or cotton around her legs and tummy. Occasionally I swaddle but she gets her arms out anyway. She also has me for warmth plus I dress her for the weather. Last night it was hot so she was in just a singlet, nappy and a muslin over her legs.
ilikerivers
Nov. 6th, 2011 01:03 am (UTC)
I have read for and against arguments for swaddling while bed sharing. Arms out seems to be most recommended.
hoodsey
Nov. 6th, 2011 07:41 pm (UTC)
Yea, we don't swaddle mostly because she HATES it. She has to have her arms free.
x_crash_into_me
Nov. 6th, 2011 12:29 am (UTC)
We bed share right now. I wouldn't do it if I wasn't confident in myself, but I'm very aware of her when I'm sleeping. Some people sleep so deep it's dangerous to sleep with the baby in bed. She's 5 weeks now so we're going to start getting her to sleep in her bassinet more often.

Edited at 2011-11-06 12:30 am (UTC)
tikizeekbaby
Nov. 6th, 2011 02:44 am (UTC)
I've bedshared with my kids since the first night I brought home our 5.5 year old. I hadn't planned on it, but frankly, I kept startling awake the first night she was home to peek into the travel pen bassinet to make sure she was still breathing, out of desperation for sleep I finally moved her into the bed next to me and haven't looked back since.

I've just made sure we didn't have any extra or loose bedding around her, and I've always been very careful to keep the covers below their necks. I have never been a heavy sleeper nor someone who moves much in their sleep, so I wasn't particularly worried about how I'd handle it. I nursed all three and after the first few months, frankly, they find the nipple themselves and I don't even wake up for it LOL. I was especially careful with our first with respect to not having her sleep between my husband and I, at the time, there were nights he'd tried to roll over ME so I was worried. Three kids in and he's now an old hand and many nights the kids have happily slept under his armpit burrowed into his side LOL.

Good Luck!
hoodsey
Nov. 6th, 2011 07:40 pm (UTC)
This is EXACTLY what we do. She honestly sleeps next to/on him all night. When I put her next to me, she migrates towards him. They have a VERY close bond already. I'm basically just the milk lady! It warms my heart because I've had many friends who babies wanted NOTHING to do with dad until they were closer to a year or so (BF babies).

Neither of us are heavy sleepers and wake up at the slightest noise and we don't move much at night.
Thank you for reassuring me. :)
ever_my_own
Nov. 6th, 2011 10:02 pm (UTC)
We planned to co-sleep but not bed-share... our daughter had different plans!

We have her cot side-carred to our bed as we did for our son and she sleeps happily there during the day and until about 1.30am it seem, after that she MUST have mama's arm around her or she'll wake every 10 - 20 minutes. Even me touching her is not enough. If I bring her that little bit closer and put my arm around her (or more often fall asleep feeding her) she'll sleep for about 4 hours.

I don't think I'd ever have done it with our first, with #2 it happened sometimes when he was little, but more frequently as he got older (he still joins us at 2.5, though other side of the bed to baby) - it helped that even when he was born he was a big boy so felt less delicate, and we did research it a bit then.

This time around it seems natural to do what she feels she needs - we are not in any of the 'high risk' categories and there are 5 of us she can deprive of sleep!!
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